Some people begin to dream of their wedding day at a very young age. It is such a magical day. It is also a day that takes a lot of work and months of detailed planning.
As a guest, it is important that you help the bride and groom make the day special. Your actions and demeanor can help make or break the event. Follow these tips and you will be the guest everyone wants to have at their wedding!
Wedding guest etiquette should begin the second you receive an invitation. The invitation gives you several important details about the wedding that you need to know. The bride and groom have timed out when the invitation should be received based on the tasks they have asked you to do. Be sure to read the invitation thoroughly.
One of the tasks is to secure accommodations. Do you need to spend the evening in another city? Be sure to book a room where the bride and groom suggest. Their suggestion will typically be at a hotel where they have received a block of rooms at a discounted rate. Be sure to book in a timely manner. Blocks of rooms can be first come, first serve.
One of the most difficult tasks, when planning a wedding, is creating a guest list. In an ideal situation, most brides would probably choose to invite all of their friends and family. Unfortunately, limited funds do not always allow that as an option. As a guest, be sure to respect the bride and groom’s hard work. Check to see how many guests your invitation includes. Do you have a plus one? Who is the invitation addressed to on the front? Are children invited? These are all things you should pay attention to before sending back your response.
The last item, that you could be asked to attend to on an invitation, is filling out your meal preference. The bride and groom are asking you to fill it out at this time so that they can get the information to their caterer. By being late to respond, you are making it difficult for the bride, the groom, and the catering vendor to plan ahead.
Always check to see where the bride and groom have registered. This is their one chance to ask for help with collecting items to better their new life together. Try to be considerate when purchasing their gift. Consider their needs and how much you’d like to spend. Keep in mind that the bride and groom will most likely be feeding you the evening of the event. You can certainly look at items that are not on their registry as long as they are personable and show thought. Money is always acceptable too.
Not sure what to wear? Look to the invitation or wedding website for tips on what the evening’s attire will be. Remember, it is always better to be over dressed than under dressed. Try to stay away from wearing white. It is the bride’s day to shine.
The invitation will specify what time the wedding ceremony will begin. It is important that all guests be on time. The special couple have carefully timed out when they would like things to take place. If their ceremony runs over, due to guests arriving late, that may take time away from something else later.
Spoiler alert! We live in the age of social media. We are constantly tweeting, posting, and instagramming. Be sure you are considerate when you post pictures of the bride. Allow the bride to surprise everyone, including her groom, as she walks down the isle.
Was the ceremony too long? Do you not like the beer and wine selection? Do you think the bridesmaids would have looked better in purple versus orange? Keep your comments to yourself. When it is your wedding you can do whatever you’d like!
The bride and groom have invited you to their wedding because they truly wanted to spend their special day with you. Unfortunately, they can’t always show it the way they’d like. It is difficult to get around to all of your guests and say, “thank you for coming.” Don’t take offense. Instead, try to approach the couple on your own time. Thank them for inviting you. The perfect guest is appreciative, social, and positive.